A touchy subject

First of all, Imagebank.com rocks. I cannot believe the images this thing has and doncha think it helps spice up the posts? Now, you're probably wondering what this is all about. Welcome to my real rant for the week...this is a long one and gets a little soap-boxy, so refresh your drink now.

A guy friend of mine (let's call him Brian) called me today to talk about a huge issue going on in his life. He belongs to this professional social group and he was suddenly kicked out by the group's "organizer," Claire. Let me back up a sec. Brian has been part of this group since its inception 18 months ago and was supposedly friends with Claire.

Apparently, what happened is that Claire and couple of the other female members were standing around gossiping, and one of them, Molly, had gone out on a date with Brian outside of this particular group. Well, things went terribly between them because of huge philosophical differences between their respective beliefs, and needless to say, no second date was ordered up by either party.

Molly discussed some of the details of this said date to the other girls, including Claire, and then another woman said that Brian had apparently touched her ass at one of their social events six months ago. Now, you will have to trust me when I say that it's totally and completely out-of-character for Brian to do something like this. If you're thinking "well, you just never know..." that's a bunch of horseshit. Imagine if your brother or good friend would do something like that -- that's how well I know Brian and believe that he would NEVER do that.

So, Claire just boots Brian out of the group based on what these two women said. First of all, the whole experience with Molly shouldn't have been discussed within this group anyway -- it was a private affair. Secondly, Claire didn't even bother to talk to Brian to get his side of the story, esp. when you factor in he'd been with the group for 18 months and even Molly had only joined a month ago. When Claire finally admitted who said he grabbed her ass, Brian has no clue who the girl is. Brian's pissed b/c he didn't get a chance to defend himself before the judgment was made, and by excommunicating him from the group, it sends a signal to the others that there was actual proof of his guilt.

What really chaps my ass, though, is that there are legitimate claims about this kind of thing that could possibly be ignored down the road as a result of these immature women. This happened to me once, back in college, where I was friends with this guy/girl that were kind of dating. Things seemed to be going well, until suddenly she says she was date raped. Whoa... I don't take this lightly, but at the same time, the details just didn't quite "add up," and I kind of began to question my friend's claim based on other things that would take far too long to explain.

To this day, 10 years later, I think she lied b/c this guy essentially turned her down, and she wasn't used it and resented him for it. But, what would've happened had she pursued this claim? This is someone's life you're talking about, not just a game. I know this sounds harsh, but let's face it, we've all heard stories about false accusations that are made and by the time the woman comes around to admitting her lie, hardly anyone notices. Or, what happens is that no one believes the next person who's telling the truth who's brave enough to come forward.

I can not understand these type of women who do things like this and play games, and unfortunately, it usually takes another woman to see what's really going on and call the bitch out. So, here is yet ANOTHER problem that can make men wary of women, as a whole gender, when it's really just a few bad apples that ruin in the entire bunch. I can't tell you how many times I get calls from other guys asking me "what is going on here..." This may be cruel and blunt to say, but there are a lot of vindictive women out there.

I had another guy friend soliciting for a new roommate on Roommates.com and this girl answered saying that she didn't want "a guy roommate who tried to hit on her." I told him that she sounded like a stupid bitch and that's exactly what she wants him to do. He went ahead and rented the second room to her and surprise.... she continually hits on him, gets jealous if he goes out on dates, repeatedly walks into his room without knocking, etc.

Honestly, I have no real way to end this, but it's 1:40 a.m. and I have to get to bed -- and it turns out I have to work tomorrow. I'm sure I'll think of a better conclusion as I'm lying there trying to fall asleep and then it will jolt me awake.